I’m Back……In a Way.

Finding myself missing blogging. Missing the interaction with strangers who become associates, with readers who become teachers and with friends who become even closer to me.

I’ve been “breaking” from my business for a little while now, to rediscover my passions in life. Passions other than those in work. I’ve been able to spend more time with my family, enjoy my work-work (which I couldn’t do while I was writing so much for Little Red) and I’ve started to work on giving my life a kind of makeover.

Events of the last year have lead me to confirm where I want to go in life and who I want with me along the way. I want to keep writing, but I want it to be fun. I want to keep reading, and read a lot more than I ever have. 

I set a bucket list about 4 years ago and not enough has been achieved up to this point in time as life has really gotten in the way! So I’ve really come to understand that my life and the events that make it wonderful or disastrous are totally up to me and the decisions I make.

The first decision I’ve made is that I’ll continue to rest from Little Red until further notice. That “further notice” could be months, weeks or days. When I’m ready, I’ll be back. The second and more exciting decision I’ve made is that I need to start conquering my bucket list items. So I’ve started my book.

Book? Yep, MY book. I’m going to write about my life, my beliefs and my dreams and it will be dedicated and written for my two children. The reasons why I have decided to do this will be revealed in the Preface, which I hope to release in the next two months.

So if you’d like to read an interesting tale about a 32 year old Mum, nurse, writer and dreamer, stay tuned. I’ll be revealing excerpts along the way and I’m looking to my Little Red followers for feedback. After all, you’ve stayed with me for this long, wouldn’t want to end the friendship now!

I’m really happy to be moving into this reflective phase of my life and I want you all to remember that we only get one chance at life and it’d be sorrowful to leave the Earth with regrets. If you want it, go for it!

 

LEJ

My Little Secret- Shhhhh

So I announced on Facebook that I’d be sharing a secret of mine on the blog today. Most wouldn’t find it that intriguing or exciting but as it’s a weight busting my shoulders to pieces, I thought I’d share.

As my followers would know, I’m a copywriter and Mum. What you might not know (unless you read my very early posts quite thoroughly) is that I’m also a Registered Nurse. I started nursing in 2001 and in that time, have gained a wealth of experience. I always felt drawn to nursing, in the same way that I love writing and what it does for my soul.

So my secret is, I think I’m at a crossroads and want to give Nursing away. I studied so hard to get where I ended up and I’m getting down on myself about that. But I think I’ve lost a bit of love for the profession that once I only had eyes and a heart for. 

I want to write full time until I finish my current Masters program and then beyond. How do I do that?! Do I have the guts to take that leap and work for myself? Scary. Very scary.

That’s my secret. I’m scared and I’m confused but for pretty exciting reasons.

Can you give me any tips on how I come to make the right decision for me and for my family? Do I listen to my brain which tells me to go back to Oncology or my heart, which tells me that writing is it and a bit…… help!

100 Cures for Blogger’s Block- Part 3! Finale from Little Red Writing Solutions

Finale!

Click the above link to download your copy of the finale to my mini series- 100 Cures for Blogger’s Block

Thanks for all of your supportive comments, I appreciate the love you share!

Lauren Jeffery

Little Red Writing Solutions

100 Cures for Blogger’s Block- Part 2!

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Get those creative thought flowing with the second part of Little Red’s 100 Cures for Blogger’s Block and click on the above link to download your copy today

How we can add to this list?

Nightmare (By Lauren Jeffery)

Nightmare

By Lauren Jeffery

March 19th 2014

 

“Pulsating” was not the word for it. My heart was trying to discharge itself. My legs wouldn’t move me away. My fingers tingled. Dead hush. Strong winds ripped through my ears. Tears pricked my cheeks. I could taste the grief. Fists clenched, I sat in pause. Rest. Just breathe. In and out. It’s over. You made it. You’re still here. Pins and needles numbed my feet. With 100 pound eyelids, I closed my eyes and tried to remember in detail the last hour of my life. I couldn’t recall one word that was said. Or who was there to say them.

 

“I love you”. “I need you here” Over and over again, my shaken mind repeated. It just wouldn’t stop. My heart needed peace and silence. A sturdy hand helped me to my feet. Wiping the salty tears off my face, along with once-perfect make up, the steady hand gripped my shoulder. “It’s over”. My heartbeat slowed, I felt the wind on my skin. Blood flow gushed like a flash flood through my hands and feet. I realized I was alive and I had survived my lifelong nightmare. I’d just survived my Mum’s funeral.

Little Red’s Guest Book- Meet Christie Lyons (Writer, Soul Sista and Mum of Two, including a Heart Kid)

1. Can you introduce yourself and what you do (Soul Sistas, your writing, study, family etc)

My name is Christie Lyons and I am a Mum of two gorgeous boys, Brendon (10) and Nate (4 months). I am the co-founder of Soul Sistas Healing & Guidance, which I operate with my sister in law Jess Welsh. I am also a writer, and have regular articles published which are shared on the Building Beautiful Bonds website. I have also had two of my stories published, and am currently working on a novel. I also study the Tarot, Astrology and Psychology part time.

 2. Can you describe the paths your career plans have taken you down? How have your career dreams and goals changed over the course of your working life?

I actually started out working in retail when I was a teenager and while I didn’t really feel as though it challenged me, I did gain a lot of confidence through customer service roles, and that was something I lacked previously. After my first son was born I decided to move to Geelong for a change, and I returned to study and gained my Diploma in Children’s Services. I very quickly learned that I loved working with children and as soon as I graduated, I moved into a full time role as a Kinder Teacher. Eventually, I was promoted to Director of the centre, however it ended up being sold out privately and I moved back to Melbourne where I commenced my role as Coordinator of a small community based childcare centre. While I was there, I gained my Advanced Diploma in Children’s services, as well as several other related qualifications, and once again, I gained so much knowledge and experience throughout my time there. Protecting children’s rights, as well as nurturing their emotional wellbeing will always be a passion of mine. 

 In early 2013, after a traumatic experience, I was reconnected with my passion for writing and found that it was extremely therapeutic. Since then, I have continued to write as a form of healing, and have even had two stories published and several articles on a regular basis. Writing is something that I thoroughly enjoy and knowing that my words are helping others just makes it even more worthwhile. I am currently working on a novel, which I hope to have completed and published by the end of the year. 

 In March 2013, my sister in law Jess and I decided to start a Facebook business called Soul Sistas Healing & Guidance. The main aim of this idea was for us to share our spiritual journey with others, and to pass on any knowledge we gained throughout our experiences. It has grown rapidly over the last 12 months, and we now offer several types of readings, guidance and products. 

 After my second son was born in October last year, I decided to resign from my position in early childhood to focus on being a Mum. After he was born with a congenital heart defect and had to undergo open heart surgery, my entire outlook on life changed. My priorities no longer laid with my career; but with my family. I decided that I wanted to spend as much time as possible concentrating on being the best Mum I can be with my sons. This shift in focus, as well as the time at home that I’d had on maternity leave also gave me the time to realise that I was no longer passionate about my job in early childhood, but that my writing and my journey with Soul Sistas was where I was meant to be. Being able to help others on such a bigger scale made me feel like I was truly on the right path.

 3. Please describe your work as a writer. What projects have you published (we can add links in here) and what are you working on at the minute? Is there anyone you’d like to collaborate with? What drew you in to writing? What do you love to write about and is there anything you will never write about?

 I’ve always loved to write; and used to actually write quite a lot as a child, but somehow that passion became lost amongst all the day to day things and for years, the only writing I continued to do was in my journal. It was when I lost my angel baby in December 2012 that I came across Karen McDermott’s book ‘The Visitor’, which is a beautiful, spiritually based story about going through this process, that I found my passion for writing come to the surface again. After reading her book, I contacted Karen and she encouraged me to write about my personal journey. I did this, and had a very detailed and long story about my life completed within just a few days. It was so amazingly therapeutic for me, and I found that it really helped me to heal from my past hurts and traumas just through the process of writing it out. This story ended up being published in a book called ‘Journey to Inner Light’, which is a collection of inspiring stories from people who have found strength and peace through their life journey.

 From that point on I felt a need to share more of my life experience, and so I was encouraged once again by the beautiful Karen to share my thoughts and feelings through published articles on the website www.buildingbeautifulbonds.com. I continue to do this on a regular basis, and more often than not, a thought just pops into my head and I write these articles as it comes to me. My articles so far can be read through the Building Beautiful Bonds website (above) and I also have a Facebook page set up to share my writing journey.

 I have recently had a very special book published, which is aimed at children and families of children that have been affected by congenital heart disease called ‘Nate’s Special Healing Heart’. I wrote this after my eldest son suggested the idea to me after my youngest son Nate underwent open heart surgery at just ten days old. Once again, Karen McDermott (who also owns and operates Innerlight Publishing) kindly offered to cover the publishing costs of this book, so we are able to donate 100% of proceeds to HeartKids. This book can be purchased here.

 At the moment I am working on a couple of projects. I have started writing my very first novel, which is all about my life journey and how my boys have influenced and brought about so many changes in my life. I am also working on some spiritually based children’s books with my sister in law and business partner Jess, where the main focus will be on encouraging children’s confidence and emotional wellbeing. 

 4. My readers may not have heard of Soul Sistas- can you describe what you do? Who are your targetted clients? (please add links to your business social media profiles if you’d like to)

 Soul Sistas Healing & Guidance started out as a small Facebook page where my sister in law Jess and I wanted to share our spiritual journey with other like-minded people. We found that it grew very rapidly, and we now have over 1500 members that regularly interact with the page – it is more like a little community. It is a very interactive community, and we are always more than happy to discuss different aspects of spirituality with others, whether it be publicly on the page, or in private. The list is endless, but some of the recent focuses have been dealing with grief, communicating with spirit and angels, letting go of the past, and meditation tips. We regularly share positive affirmations, and the page is one full of understanding, love and compassion for each other. We do not believe that we are any more knowledgeable than anyone else on the page; and are continually learning ourselves. 

 Both Jess and myself have received over twelve months extensive training in reading the Tarot, as well as a basic course in Astrology, and our mentor Lynda is an amazing woman with years and years of the further gifts that are being brought to the surface for us as we continue to open up spiritually. Often when we are performing a reading for a client, we will also receive messages from our guides, the angels or loved ones in spirit. 

 At the moment we offer several different products and services, including but not limited to: Oracle and Angel Card Readings, Mediumship Readings, Numerology and Tarot. We also sell oracle cards, books and metaphysical products. Our services are certainly not limited to this however, as we are continually sharing our ideas, research and thoughts with all the members on the page. If there is something we are unsure about, or need more information on, we take the time to find out! We are learning just as much as everyone else, every time someone has a question that they would like answered. An example of this is when one of our members asked us about ‘Empaths’. Not only were we able to answer their question with loads of information, but it also allowed us to learn more about Empaths as well.

 Soul Sistas is a wonderful caring community of like-minded people who simply wish to share their spiritual journey with others. The fact that we can provide clients with a reading if they wish, is just an added bonus of this wonderfully inspiring page.

 Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/SoulSistasHealing

Website: http://www.soulsistashealing.com/

 5. Could you describe your personal and professional goals?

 At the moment my focus is first and foremost on being a Mum. I want to be able to be there emotionally as well as physically for my sons, and for them to know that they can talk to me about anything. I intend on encouraging them to be exactly who they are, for them to have pride in themselves and their strengths, and to live the life that THEY wish to live.

 As Soul Sistas continues to grow, we have plans to one day have our own shop where we can offer face to face readings and have a sanctuary for our clients to relax in. I also plan on training in Reiki later this year and this will be another service that we can offer. Jess has almost completed her Life Coaching qualification, so I am sure that this will be something that she will be offering as well. 

 Jess and I both intend on extending our guidance to children sometime in the future; through books and possibly even workshops. The sky is the limit as far as we are concerned, as more and more people are opening up to the fact that there is more to life than they realise. 

 6. In terms of small business with Soul Sistas and being a published writer,

- do you have any advice for up and coming writers?

My main advice would be to ‘go for it’. Everyone has a story within them, and once you start, you will find that it flows very easily. I also suggest speaking with Innerlight Publishing, as they are an amazing publishing company who focus on helping new writers to start their journey.

 - what struggles have you faced in business and what are the most important lessons you have learnt?

The most important thing I have learned so far is to make sure I take time for myself. There’s no point in working 24 hours a day and not enjoying life, because that’s not what life is all about. The other important thing I would suggest is to always, always listen to what your clients want. I mean really listen, and act upon it when you can. 

 - what and or who inspires you and what motivates you to achieve your goals?

My sons inspire me. My eldest son Brendon is such a unique, emotionally intelligent soul, and he often gives me inspirational ideas. My motivation is purely because I receive joy from helping others.

 - describe your writing process

Like I said earlier, I generally get a thought pop into my head, and I have to write it down straight away. I actually receive channeled messages from spirit as well, and so some of my work is through a process called ‘automatic writing’. Basically what happens is, I tune into the energy of my guides or spirit, and type whatever comes into my mind. Sounds simple really, but it is an amazing gift and I am very blessed to have it.

 - do you put high expectations on yourself and how do you deal with setbacks?

I do often try to get too much done in one day. I have recently learned to take a step back and take some time out for myself so that I don’t burn out. In the business that I’m in, I am confident that my clients would much prefer that my mind is clear before reading for them, and so they understand that Jess and I have children and other commitments as well.

 - what do you gain from writing ?

Oh wow, so so much. It’s a healing process for me, especially when I am writing about my own experiences. I also find that when I’m writing it is extremely relaxing for me; almost like meditation. Knowing that my words have helped others gives me  so much joy and fulfillment.

 - how do you deal with writers block? is there such a thing?

I believe there probably is such a thing, but I also believe that if you’re finding it hard to write at a certain point in time, then the words aren’t meant to be written yet.

 10 Fast Facts:

1. your favourite food

Popcorn

2. your favourite non-alcoholic beverage

Coke

3. your favourite book- non fiction!

The Visitor by Karen McDermott as it changed my life

4. the quote you live by

Everything happens for a reason

5. your lucky charm/s

I have several crystal pendants (each one with different uses)

6. your interesting or quirky talent

Still developing this, but I believe I have Reiki abilities

7. your favourite word

Awesome

8. your least favourite sound

People chewing

9. your next project in one sentence

Helping children through spirituality

10. three words to describe you as a person

Passionate, determined, Kind

 

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Christie (L) & her SIL and partner in healing, Jess

(Image courtesy of the talented Christie herself)

 

Thank you SO SO much Christie for sharing your story, experience and dreams with me. I can’t wait to watch it all unfold and cheer you on along the way

 

Lauren @LittleRed

 

 

http://www.innerlightpublish.com/

 

Happy to be contacted about writing/Soul Sistas etc: soulsistachristie@live.com

 

I’ve also attached a photo of Jess and I

 

 

Happy to put up a link and information re: Heart Kids if you’d like, up to you.

 

http://www.heartkids.org.au/

 

Does your job make you THIS happy?

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What are some of the reasons why people aren’t working in their dream industry in their dream position?

Nursing was only one of my dreams which occasionally floats off into the background. Writing is my passion because it really consumes me.

When I’m not writing, I’m thinking about writing!

What’s stopping you from living your dream?

Happy Face Project Part 3- Why Crawling On The Floor Will Make Me A Better Mum

Drove to university to complete paperwork. Prammed Miss 1 yr all around the campus for no particular reason. Went for a brief window shop at the local mall. Miss 1 yr getting a wee bit rowdy. Mini gluten free blueberry muffins save her day.

Drove on highway all the way home. Well, to another mall to pick up my lifesavers. Lifesavers= new reading glasses. Old reading glasses? Covered in white-out by Miss 1yr.

Zoomed home so Miss 1yr can nap. I also want to crash. Realize I haven’t had a meal today. Or a snack. 2pm. Bad example to my kids. Guilt and reason still doesn’t spur me on to eat.

Miss 1 yr wakes from a peaceful 15minute (far too brief) slumber. I plonk her on the floor, feed her more lunch (which I must admit, started to look mighty tasty to my ravaged stomach) then let her “read” a book. “Read” to a 1yr old= rip pages out of a newspaper.

Miss 1yr begins her slow crawl to the dining room. At random, I follow her. On my hands and knees. Painful. She notices me. I speed up and let out a monster growl. She cackles hysterically. She speeds up towards the window. I speed up. She’s laughing so much that she’s crying. I start crying. She stops. I sit up. She moves to a sitting position. And then says “Mummm Ma” and grasps my hand. Her hand is a third of mine in size. Match sticks compared to branches. Looking into my eyes, she’s just confirmed that we’ll be best friends forever. Holding her tight, I kiss her Cabbage Patch Kid cheeks and reposition her for a crawling race. She wins. Don’t ever tell her I let her win or she’ll be heartbroken for sure.

Moments like this take me to the calmest, most love-filled place I could ever imagine. The world stops and I’m reminded the only thing that matters is my family and friends. Bottom line. And that I need to get on my hands and knees to see the world more often, a different perspective can change everything.

Lauren’s Happy Face Project Part 1

Setting myself up to achieve greater happiness and wellbeing- so much more to look forward to in life when you feel positive about your future!

This week, I started taking baby steps towards getting my happy mojo back. I was kicking butt and doing good things for myself and others.

The first good deed I did for myself was to go and get my nails done. Not a big deal to some, but when you have two little ones, study to do, deadlines for your small business to reach and a paid part-time position as well, time is precious and alone-time comes but once a millenium.

It felt really good. I switched my brain off for 30 minutes at least. I didn’t tune in to the buzz of married women and teenage chicks around me. And my nails look damn cute, if I say so myself.

Then onto something that started off as something I wanted to do for myself, but turned into something I could help someone else with. Again, it’s a very small thing but it became a really positive interaction between myself and a perfectly friendly stranger.

I took my beloved vehicle to get a much-need laser clean. Bargain at $12. Swiped my card, no luck. Flipped the card and tried to swipe again. Still no joy. Kept frantically swiping whilst being careful that no one was watching me, the crazy woman, looking like I was having a seizure getting my card to swipe. All I wanted was to get my car washed. Then I did something I never normally do. I called the Help Line. Some random, deep voiced Ocker Bloke answered and I politely informed him that his card machine for this car wash was in deep doo-doo. He thanked me and the phone call ended.

Four hours later, I received a phone call back from Ocker Aussie who informed me that I was entitled to a free upgraded wash, vacuum and air freshener (Blackberry Clove, get on it people) as his machine hadn’t been working for a number of days and he wouldn’t have known this if I didn’t call. 

So #1- I made a polite phone call, despite my frustration at having so little time to get my car washed and going home with my car still looking like it’d run through a weekend bush bash (usually I’d not call and go home feeling angry)

#2- I helped someone else. It was a small gesture and not life-saving, but it helped his business and he was back there at the Car Wash to give my car a polish and a sparkle for free that afternoon and he was lovely. Really lovely.

Win-win all around. And it made me feel really good. Someone cared about what I was saying and responded in such a nice way to something that should’ve been so trivial to me.

TICK- I WAS more patient and I DID NOT lose my cool!

TICK- I did something nice for myself and for someone else.

God it felt good.

This weekend has been all about keeping my cool in the face of some nastiness in my life. Tactless people who don’t care about me will no longer be able to rent so much free space in my head. I’m done with these people and I’m moving on. End of story and my story happily continues on!

 

Loving life, killing it in the face of challenges, hardship and tough times.